Many coaches recommend training with a sparring partner, thanks to whom you will achieve better results in your training plan. The right sparring partner will motivate you during training and will always push you to better results. However, finding a good sparring partner may not be as easy as it seems at first glance. In this article we will show you 4 types of “helpers” that you should avoid.
1. The friend who is in much better shape than you
According to a study published in the journal Science, when training, it is very important to choose a partner who is similar to your body weight, approximately the same age and similar to your physical condition. If you end up finding a sparring partner with similar characteristics to you, you are 3 times more likely to continue in your training plan for at least 7 weeks than people who have not been able to find the right partner. If you choose a sparring partner who is in too good physical shape, you may not be able to catch up with his pace, which can irritate not only you but him as well. However, you do not intend to ruin your friendship due to misunderstandings in the gym.
Choosing a person who looks like the Hulk as a sparring partner is not the best choice. You should try to choose a partner who is in slightly better physical shape than you. As the results of a study from the University of Kansas show – train with someone who is about 40% in better shape than you, this can motivate you 90% better than training alone or with Hulk’s cousin mentioned above.
2. Your best friend who supports you too much
It may sound ridiculous now, but it really is. Excessive support from a close friend is not a bad thing, but during a workout it can happen that he is more motivated than you, which can lead to your inner motivation and fitness goals reaching the freezing point.
According to a study by the Association of Psychological Sciences, you will begin to transfer responsibility to the so-called “self-regulating external source”, in which you subconsciously replace your efforts with the support of your friend. In fact, it is very simple – if you see that your friend succeeds more or is more motivated than you, you will look for motivation elsewhere and thus rivalry will be born, even indirectly. However, this outsourcing is not a bottomless pit and you can easily stop supporting each other. You can easily be left without encouragement and support, as a result of which you will start to feel bad in the gym.
3. The overly motivated sparring partner
A study conducted by Michigan State University found that people who do push-ups, in the last series their partner screams motivationally: “more!” Or “come on, you can!”, Are unable to complete their series of exercises such as the other coaches that no one called. How is that possible? Although the sparring partner has had good thoughts, many people perceive these well-meaning cries negatively and thus they have the opposite effect on the psyche, especially when the trainee is sweating.
Of course, each of us is different. Someone who likes really hard workouts and is used to his sparring partner shouting and trying to push him to a higher level might appreciate such an approach.
4. The sparring partner who is making fun of you
Yes, there are some. They constantly make fun of your weight, make fun of your physical performance and the weights you train with, or constantly complain about your fitness goals. A study from the University of New Hampshire suggests that if you find such an exercise partner, you can simply stop going to the gym. When scientists ask students to recall a pleasant moment related to the gym, students with positive memories return to work out in the gym and continue in their training plan. Conversely, students who have had experience with this type of “motivator” give up exercise and sports.
After reading this article, you may think that finding the right sparring partner is a real art. But don’t despair. Your exercise partner may be much closer than you think. Maybe he is waiting for you alone in the gym. Motivate yourself at home, think positively and be patient, because after all, Rome is not built in one day.
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